As a lot of you may know I turned 20 almost a week ago and it’s sad how quickly time is moving forward, but I am at a point in my life where I have officially passed my teens and come through some tough moments in the short amount of time I have been around.
So, I thought I would share some lessons I have had to learn which I wish people would have told me sooner. If these are relatable let me know and I just hope I can help a few of you out.
Here we go:
Nothing Good Will Ever Come Easy
One thing I have had to learn, is that anything worth fighting for, will never be plain sailing, no matter how much you would like for it to be.
It’s an annoying truth, but the truth none the less.
There are situations, let’s say landing that dream job for example, where you will want to just send out one application, get the interview straight away, and then be told you have gotten the job. How perfect would that be?
Although that may be the case for some people, it is very likely that won’t be the way it goes.
The way this is more likely to play out is, you send out 100 applications, get maybe 10 interviews and then hopefully get the job then, but even so, some people may still need to try, try, and try again.
This isn’t me trying to burst any bubbles or ruin anyone’s dreams, but rather say that effort goes a long way, and the more effort you put in, the more likely it is to pay off. That goes for practically anything also, so what I am trying to say is, keep trying and you will be ok! Trust me, it took me over a year of searching to get where I wanted.
Life Will Throw Some Interesting Curve Balls
It doesn’t matter what you do in life or where you go for that matter, life will find some way to throw something your way to throw you off track, but one small piece of advice, don’t let it bring you to an automatic halt.
Keep looking forward. Keep going and never look back.
And yes, I will admit that is some big talk for someone who did let that happen several times in her life, but hey, I am here to tell the tale, so maybe I can be the one to let you know after all!
There have been some moments in my past where I thought things were going a certain way, and then BAM!, it all diverted and I ended up on a completely different path. At first it seems confusing and you try to figure out what is going on, but sometimes this new path may be just what you needed, even if at first it seems absurd.
Just go with it!
You Don’t Have To Be Liked By Everyone To Be Happy
This has always been a HUGE problem for me, but I know I am not the only one here who does this.
In my mind, I have always had this thought that everyone I came across had to like me, otherwise it was apparent something was wrong with me. I have actually lost count as to how many times this has taken over my mind.
Now, obviously at the age of 20, I know this to not be the case, although occasionally I may still get an inkling of a feeling that this still may be so. Really at this point, I am just trying to convince myself that people can dislike me and I won’t be affected by it at all. I don’t react quite so badly as I once would but still, I kind of just want everyone to be my friend. Is that so bad?
Saying this however, I am happy with the friends I have and wouldn’t change them for anything. This goes for those both online and offline, it really doesn’t matter. I am glad to have people who like me for me, it makes you feel good and forget the insecurities you once had.
Real friends are hard to come across but so worth the time and effort.
And if you are looking for a friend, I will happily become that friend.
See you soon
Chloe Lauren x